Too often, my friends will come to me in distress, looking for help with their relationships... Now don't get me wrong, I love helping and giving advice to my friends, but its just that when it involves their significant other... All the problems are always the same. The petty fights and the stress caused by these amateur high school relationships all have the same mischievous source: Distrust.
As Eros the God of Love once said in famous Greek literature "Love cannot live where there is no trust". I honestly couldn't say it better myself. If only teenagers could realize how pointless amateur relationships are, they could save themselves the heartbreak. Now keep in mind I'm not speaking to all, just most. I know multiple high school couples who have been together for years and probably will stay together for multiple years to come. But those certain pairs of people... I've never seen such amazing bonds and trust between two before. Hell my parents are not even as close as those couples. Regardless... They know what their doing, unlike the rest of the teenage population. So how do you fix this distrust problem? Easy and obvious answer. Don't rush things.
Today, people think that you must automatically date someone if you've have had "a thing" with them for more than two weeks... But there is no way you can actually know someone well enough to begin a real, strong relationship only after that short while. Just wait. No one is rushing you, sit down and get to know your significant other. Talk to him/her and find out about the stuff you would like to know before starting anything serious with them. Even the small things matter. Decide whether you actually want to spend a chunk of your life with that person... and decide if you are ready for a commitment and responsibility of a relationship. Follow those rules and tips and you might prevent your next relationship from turning into a relation-shit. Good luck!
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